Feedback by agreement. A radical proposal.

Teams grow when people grow. Some of what fosters our growth is having useful feedback, both about the value we bring and the value potential we have. 

All kinds of feedback either goes uncommunicated or is communicated unilaterally. All manner of team tensions, disconnects and weak trust have their root causes in unexpressed unilateral assumptions. None of this supports sustainable learning and mutual trust. These are possible when we do feedback by agreement. 

The structure is simple. Everyone clarifies what kinds of feedback they want from others. This feedback is shared after everyone agrees to give this feedback. Then everyone declares what kinds of feedback they also want to give others. This is also shared after everyone agrees to welcome the offered feedback.  

The team moves from assumptions to agreements. Trust builds, which strengthens capacity for belonging, purpose, learning, courage and energy.